08/06/2026
I have a confession.
When I got engaged, I genuinely thought planning my own wedding would be easy.
I’m a wedding planner. I do this for a living. I know the timelines, the logistics, the vendors, the budgets. I thought I’d simply put on my “planner hat,” make a few decisions, and call it a day.
I also thought I could keep my emotions separate from the process.
I could not.
Somewhere between trying to make everyone happy, navigating family expectations, answering everyone’s opinions, and carrying the invisible mental load... I lost sight of what the day was actually about.
Us.
The funny thing is, I tell my couples all the time that weddings are emotional. I remind them that decision fatigue is real. That family dynamics can be complicated. That having someone to advocate for them is invaluable.
Then I somehow convinced myself I’d be the exception.
Spoiler alert: I wasn’t.
Looking back, if I could change one thing, I would’ve hired a wedding planner.
It doesn’t stop your aunt from having opinions. It doesn’t make family expectations disappear. It doesn’t magically make every decision feel easy because you happen to know the “right” answer.
Sometimes the people who need support the most are the ones who spend all day being that support for everyone else.
So if you’re on the fence about hiring a planner because you think, “I can do it myself...”
You probably can.
But the better question is:
Do you want to?
