03/19/2026
Maybe you should get a good paying job.
During a recent dinner, my bill came to almost $1,500, and when I looked at the receipt, the suggested tip amounts were honestly insane.
22% = $329.02
20% = $299.11
18% = $269.20
So basically, before I even signed the slip, the receipt was already nudging me toward dropping an extra $300 just because the total happened to be high.
And that’s where I started questioning the whole thing.
Yes, the meal was expensive.
Yes, the check was $1,498.07.
But does the size of the bill automatically mean someone is entitled to hundreds more in gratuity, no matter what?
I ended up leaving $25 because that felt like a fair reflection of the actual experience and service I received. Not terrible. Not amazing. Just fine. And to me, tips are supposed to reflect service, not act like some automatic luxury tax attached to expensive menu prices.
What made it worse was the reaction afterward.
The server’s attitude noticeably changed, and then a manager came over to bring up “customary tipping practices,” which honestly felt less like hospitality and more like pressure. At that point, it stopped feeling like appreciation and started feeling like I was being told I had failed some unspoken social rule.
That’s the part I can’t get over.
Why is gratuity treated like it should scale endlessly with the size of the bill, even when the actual effort of carrying plates, taking orders, and checking in doesn’t suddenly become ten times harder just because the entrée costs more?
A $300 tip is not a small expectation. That’s a car payment. That’s a utility bill. That’s real money.
And yet somehow the conversation always becomes about whether the customer is “cheap,” instead of whether the expectation itself has become ridiculous.
I’m not saying servers don’t deserve to be paid fairly. They absolutely should. But that responsibility should not automatically fall on customers in proportion to menu prices, especially when the restaurant already controls the pricing, service model, and payroll structure.
So now I’m genuinely asking:
Should gratuity be based mainly on the quality of service, or are customers now just expected to pay a percentage of the check no matter what, even when that percentage turns into hundreds of dollars? Am I wrong?