12/22/2025
After helping couples plan their weddings for the past 25 years, I went into our son’s wedding thinking I knew exactly what to expect. What I didn’t expect were the new perspectives - and the beautiful lessons - I’d learn by standing in the role of Mother of the Groom.
🤍 Let the couple make it their own.
Even without ever having planned a wedding before, Justin and Megan knew exactly what they wanted, and because of that, they created the most unforgettable moments. I found myself initially focused on the visual details: the beautiful china, the picture-perfect touches. But what mattered most were the moments they personalized - writing and speaking their own vows, curating a playlist that felt like them, choreographing their first dance. Those choices made the day uniquely theirs.
🤍 A smaller guest count creates deeper moments.
Committing to a smaller guest list wasn’t easy, but it allowed for deeper connections with everyone who attended. Because it was a multi-day celebration, guests had time to relax, enjoy, and truly be present. The entire weekend felt intimate, meaningful, and unhurried.
🤍 Hire a planner - truly.
While our caterer provided an incredible day-of coordinator, a multi-day wedding still comes with many moving parts. Cleanup, snacks, small details - they add up quickly and can pull you out of the moment. We even considered DIY centerpieces for the rehearsal dinner, and I’m endlessly grateful someone else handled that. Weddings are fleeting; your time is better spent making memories than managing logistics.
🤍 Give yourself a cutoff time - and let go.
On the morning of the rehearsal, I officially signed off from everything except being the Mother of the Groom. If a table wasn’t placed or a flower went missing, it simply didn’t matter anymore. I put my phone away, removed distractions, and allowed myself to be fully present. I watched, listened, and soaked in every moment - floating through it all with nothing but joy.
