11/26/2025
Remembering just how great my abundance really is this Thanksgiving. Please take the time to read and take the time to share with others.
It happened so long ago that the memories of that place and time are now littered with cobwebs in my mind.
Those memories were part of my past that I cherished as a kid. They lay dormant in my mind for more than 20 years. It was the cold north winds of November and the sight of a faded old red barn that bought them back to life for me.
Heading home for the holidays on the interstate, those memories surged up with in me. Too much and too often, they could not be ignored. Suddenly, I found myself turning off the interstate and heading down a gravel road. It was more than the memories that had me driving 60 miles off course. This year more so than any other, I had to be reminded once again just how great my abundance really is on this Thanksgiving Day.
An hour of driving had me standing alongside a mailbox that once bore my uncle's name. The farmstead he had owned was deserted now. Gnarled weeds and wild animals have taken the place of the people and livestock who previously called it home. All that is left now are the warm recollections of a 50-year-old man who has finally come home again.
My last vivid memory of this place was on Thanksgiving Day when I was 10 years old. There is just something unique about a country farm during the holidays. With generations of relatives filling the house and the aroma of home cooking drifting on the breeze, there was no better place to be. Traditions were made on days such as this.
Back then, money was as scarce as new clothes. Making do with what you had was just a way of life. Milk came from the cow, the turkey was homegrown, and fresh eggs were gathered every day. The grocery store was red in color and called a barn. There were no cable TVs or computers. As boys, we made our own entertainment in the form of slingshots. Plinking at tin cans whiled away many an hour.
Thanksgiving was a time to catch up with people we would see only once a year. It was, as my uncle said, "a time for remembering." Growing up during those times, I thought like most kids did. A promise was a promise - it was something that was kept.
When told to do something, we did it. A little hard work beat a trip to the wood shed any day.
Back then, people seemed to live forever. Old people to us were more than a nuisance - they were a wealth of information.
Remembering was all I could do now as I looked at the tree in the back yard. The men would gather there after the Thanksgiving meal, rubbing their sides. They would brag about the cooking. Pipes were lit, and stories were told of hunting and fishing. Some were full of truth, and some full of lies. I guess back then, they weren't really lies - they were more like whoppers where the truth was stretched just a bit.
Then, I remembered something that wasn't so pleasant. It was news that came from my father. "It's become too crowded here," he said. "Next year, we start having Thanksgiving in town at grandma's."
In that single moment, my life surrounding holidays changed forever.
I still saw relatives, but not all together like on my uncle's farm. Grandma lived on Main Street in town, and slingshots became too dangerous to shoot there. Suddenly, I found myself bored. There were no chores to do, so the smells of fresh hay and livestock became strangers to my senses. They faded, much as my memories have of this old place.
A neighbor's dog barking down the road slowly brought me back to the present. I found myself with my arm draped over the mailbox, stroking it much like you would an old dog.
Through the screen of weeds and barbed wire, I saw my car parked where I'd left it along the bream of the road, and I told myself that I was going to have to leave these memories once again. Getting into my car, I was sorry that people were `missing from my uncle's farm. It seemed to be almost like losing a drop of native blood.
Late for dinner, I walked into my cousin's house two hours later. I quickly noticed the absence of young children. It was full of adults and teenagers who seemed bored. The traditions
mainly with the food we ate. There was no tree in the backyard for the men to gather around and share their stories. Dishwashers have replaced the wives' and daughters' chatting while they washed the dishes by hand.
With dinner over and a full belly, I walked outside and sat on the porch. I sat there alone, thinking about the day's events when the words of Frederick Buckner came to mind. He wrote: "Listen to your life, see it for the fathomless mystery that it is. In the boredom and pain of it no less than in the excitement and gladness; touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis, all moments are key moments and life itself is grace."
By Joel David Schwader