11/15/2023
A fellow mompreneur once confided in me about her deepest, darkest fear and this is what she told me....
"To be honest, I’m f*cking terrified of failing both as a mother and as an entrepreneur. No matter how hard I work, or try to be present in both roles, I feel as though I’m either not doing enough or not doing the “right things”. I’m constantly spinning my wheels and often feel totally alone because my husband doesn’t understand, my kids depend on me, and my clients expect so much. I have this fear that one day my kids will resent me for working too much or being too distracted with the next email or phone call because I couldn’t focus. I often feel torn because I want to have this amazing business that makes a s**t ton of money while also having an amazing memory-filled life with my family. Can I really have the best of both worlds? Whenever I’m alone, I feel like a failure who has let everyone down - my family, my business, and the worst of all, myself."
The truth? This person was and is ME, Valentina Caraballo. I was constantly on the verge of a mental breakdown (and still am at times) because I kept convincing myself that being both a great mom and having a great business wasn't possible for me.
Since starting my business 3 years ago, I've come to realize that "balance" is essentially a myth. I had to stop trying to chase this unrealistic dream of being able to give all that I have to both worlds equally...it just won't happen.
I had to accept that there will be many seasons and moments where I need to choose who and what I'm willing to sacrifice and know that this is the path I've chosen when I decided to start my business. I had to accept that I would do the best that I could on any given day and let it be just that.
I had to accept that it's going to take much longer than most to see my business grow to the level I envision it to becoming because I'm also a mother and a wife who wants to cherish the small unforgettable moments.
The sooner I was able to understand and grasp this as my actual reality, the less hard I became on myself for not being able to do it all. Because guess what, I won't be able to do it all and that's okay.
This is my journey.
What's yours?