Lovefirstasklater

09/25/2026

Self‑love and loving like Jesus are not separate.Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself — meaning your love for you sets the standard.You guard your heart, you choose your peace, you heal your wounds…so you can love others the way He did: gently, fully, and without losing yourself.

09/23/2026

Family Bonds & Traditions: The Glue That Holds Us Together

Families don’t stay strong by accident. They stay strong because someone — usually the mother, the anchor, the one who sees everything — protects the bond with intention. In my home, that bond wasn’t optional. It was demanded, nurtured, guarded, and honored. Not because life was perfect, but because life was hard, and we needed something deeper than convenience to keep us together....

Families don’t stay strong by accident. They stay strong because someone — usually the mother, the anchor, the one who sees everything — protects the bond with intention. In my home, that bond wasn’t optional. It was demanded, nurtured, guarded, and honored. Not because life was perfect, but...

08/29/2026

Today’s thoughts By Sara Washington

Today’s thoughtsToday, I was reminded that God is doing so many things behind the scenes that we don’t know about.If you’re struggling, worried, or stressed, give it to Him. He wants to hear from you. We may not always understand what He is doing or why certain things are happening, but the truth is, He is asking us to trust Him....

Today’s thoughtsToday, I was reminded that God is doing so many things behind the scenes that we don’t know about.If you’re struggling, worried, or stressed, give it to Him. He wants to hear from you. We may not always understand what He is doing or why certain things are happening, but the tr...

08/29/2026

Lovefirstasklater | Emotional discipline • Self‑trust • Healing Helping humans stop abandoning themselves and choose with clarity. Faith‑rooted guidance from a widowed mom of 4.

08/29/2026

I am still his daughter…

The loss of Dolly reminds me that grief has a way of revealing what we carry, what we’ve lost, and ultimately, who we are beneath it all. In the wake of the loss of a great woman of God, I see so many tributes to her. People sharing what her music meant, speaking of her heart, her spirit, and giving testimony to a life well lived....

The loss of Dolly reminds me that grief has a way of revealing what we carry, what we’ve lost, and ultimately, who we are beneath it all. In the wake of the loss of a great woman of God, I see so many tributes to her. People sharing what her music meant, speaking of her

08/14/2026

The One Thing God Lets Us Choose: Our Soulmate

We don’t get to choose most of the things that shape our lives.We don’t choose our parents.We don’t choose our children.We don’t choose the era we’re born into, the leaders we live under, or the circumstances we’re handed. These are things we learn to accept, honor, obey, and navigate — because they are assigned, not selected. But there is one relationship God places fully in our hands:...

We don’t get to choose most of the things that shape our lives.We don’t choose our parents.We don’t choose our children.We don’t choose the era we’re born into, the leaders we live under, or the circumstances we’re handed. These are things we learn to accept, honor, obey, and navigate .....

08/14/2026

The One Thing God Lets Us Choose: Our Soulmate

We don’t get to choose most of the things that shape our lives.
We don’t choose our parents.
We don’t choose our children.
We don’t choose the era we’re born into, the leaders we live under, or the circumstances we’re handed.

These are things we learn to accept, honor, obey, and navigate — because they are assigned, not selected.

But there is one relationship God places fully in our hands:
Our soulmate.
The person we choose — and who chooses us back.

I’ve been married twice, and I carry no regrets from either marriage. Not because everything was perfect, but because removing those chapters would erase so many choices that shaped who I am today. My children, my growth, my calling, my resilience — all of these were born from paths I walked willingly.

Regret would rewrite the story God already used for good.

And that’s why I believe this so deeply:

A soulmate is not destiny. A soulmate is a choice.

God doesn’t force that decision on us.
He doesn’t assign it the way He assigns family.
He doesn’t predetermine it the way He ordains purpose.

He hands us the freedom — and the responsibility — to choose someone whose heart aligns with ours, whose character honors us, and whose presence strengthens us.

And here’s the part we forget:

A soulmate is not just the person you choose.
A soulmate is the person who chooses you back.

Love is mutual selection.
Mutual sacrifice.
Mutual commitment.
Mutual choosing — day after day.

So choose wisely.
Choose intentionally.
Choose someone who chooses you with the same clarity, the same devotion, and the same willingness to grow.

Because out of all the things in life we don’t get to choose…
this one is holy because God lets us.

Love Always,

Love First Ask Later