04/29/2025
Dear Sam, I hope you're doing well. I'm writing because I’m caught in a tricky situation and could really use your advice. My sister recently invited my child's birthday party. The issue is, I didn't invite him. Our relationship has been rocky—he hasn’t been reliable, doesn’t pay child support, and only visits our child sporadically. To be honest, it feels like his sudden interest has more to do with my upcoming marriage than anything else. I want this day to be about celebrating my child, not about dealing with tension. But at the same time, I’m wondering if I should allow him to come, despite our history. Should I set boundaries and stick to them, or give him the chance to be present for this milestone?