08/13/2026
Behind The Bouquet 🌸
There’s a running rule my husband established early on when it comes to weddings involving friends:
You either get Abbey the planner and pay her… or you get Abbey the friend and hire someone else to plan. 😂
The first photo is how most people have seen me; name tag on, white gloves on, making sure every detail is exactly where it needs to be.
That’s Abbey the planner.
But the second photo?
That’s Abbey the friend.
Sitting in a limo with my best friend of 32 years and the girls she chose to stand beside her, with nothing for me to coordinate.
No timeline. No vendor questions. No problems to solve.
Just laughter, excitement, and being fully present.
And I think there’s a lesson in that for every wedding party:
You don’t have to know how to run a wedding to be an incredible bridesmaid, groomsman, MOH, or Best Man.
Your job isn’t to become the planner.
Your job is to support the people you love well.
That support doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s usually the small things, showing up on time, knowing where you need to be, paying attention, and stepping in when something simple needs doing.
So here’s my tip: 👇
Ask the couple and their planner what would be most helpful before the wedding day. Get clear on your roles expectations, understand the timeline, and know who to go to with questions so the couple isn’t pulled into logistics.
Then trust the plan.
Let the planner handle the flow. Let the couple stay present. Let yourself actually enjoy the experience instead of managing it.
Photo Credits:
Catherine (Straume) Dillon
AvalonWeddingPhotography