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In receiving the results of the dept employee survey, I’ve felt… annoyed. One of the final questions asked ‘what can you...
09/24/2025

In receiving the results of the dept employee survey, I’ve felt… annoyed. One of the final questions asked ‘what can your director (ie: me) do better for the dept?’ And of the dozen or so answers only the last one stuck with me. It merely said “quite literally everything”… Oh, thank you…SUPERrrrrrrr helpful in actually helping me be a better leader/manager/director. But then in scrolling photos of last month, these images kept standing out.
That person doesn’t know quite literally anything about what this role takes. The moving parts, the constant running lists and budgets and conversations happening to create THIS kind of magic on a pretty consistent basis. The attention to detail, the forethought of potential outcomes, the wading through opinions and attitudes and family dramas, the timeline to keep all moving seamlessly. That person doesn’t know I am actually working to be kind when under pressure on a big day. Or that I’m vividly aware I have RBF and try all day to keep my face neutral so I don’t look mad when it’s just my face. That person has quite literally nothing to do with my experiences and knowledge that lead me here. That person will not be the reason I feel annoyed today.

This day was magically lovely, thanks in all parts to:


Special thanks to for the overheads & chauffeur services.

“Asking for feedback is a different kind of strength. When you’ve done everything you know how to do and someone comes b...
08/28/2025

“Asking for feedback is a different kind of strength. When you’ve done everything you know how to do and someone comes back to say you still missed the mark.” Heard this on a podcast from a top tier event planner. It brought me solace to know that I’m not alone in some of the feelings I have.
I’ve been struggling to share here…. I don’t feel I have 1) the headspace/time & 2) the ownership over the events being held lately. The weddings aren’t under the V&O name specifically but I’m using my brain power still. The membership events feel sort of private but oh-so-fun that I WANT to share. I’ve felt like an un-finished project; an unfinished sentence or story.
BUT I recently asked my team for feedback & it lifted such a weight off my shoulders. I thought I was working so hard and no one was noticing, but the response was so positive & building that it made me annoyed I didn’t ask sooner! I’ve realized that I NEED this space to write out what’s in my head & heart. That it feels like such a big sigh to just let it all out. Who am I trying to impress or uphold a front for?! Myself really. But I’m beginning to see that doesn’t help me grow and learn, so buckle up - brain & heart dumps are coming back to life here.

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