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10/04/2026

Abusive relationships are rarely abusive 100% of the time.

That’s part of what makes them so difficult to recognize…and so difficult to leave.

Affection, connection, fear, withdrawal, remorse and relief can all exist inside the same relationship. The person who causes the pain can also become the person who provides relief from it.

And that unpredictability can create a powerful attachment.

It can begin to function like pulling the lever on a slot machine: you never know when the reward is coming, so you keep reaching for it. Psychology calls this intermittent reinforcement.

Love bombing. Withdrawal. Devaluation. Apologies. Promises. Affection. Another rupture. Another reconciliation.

Layer coercive control into that cycle (punishment, intimidation, monitoring, isolation, financial control, threats, blame-shifting or consequences for asserting yourself) and eventually you may find yourself organizing your behavior around keeping the peace.

That’s why abuse doesn’t always look like someone being cruel every day.

Sometimes it looks like constantly trying to get back to the person they were in the beginning.

And the more we talk honestly about what abuse actually looks like, the easier it becomes for another woman to recognize what she may be living through.

What did abuse look like in your relationship?

Share your story in the comments if you feel safe doing so. I’ll go first by sharing my experience below ⬇️⬇️

Share this post or tag a woman who needs to see it. Someone else may recognize her own story in yours. 🤍

10/04/2026

Join us next Sunday Angels-Havinn Inc for our 5th Annual Brunch funraiser highlighting
Domestic Violence Awareness Month . It will be an afternoon filled with healing and hope.

When: Sunday, October 11, 2026
Time: 12:00PM-3:00PM
Where : 3500 Russet Common #10
Laurel , MD

Inviting every survivor and everyone to celebrate, educate ,support and empower . We are breaking the silence to end Domestic Violence.

Our Key Note Speaker & Love Yourself Award Honoree:
QueenAfi Afi
2nd Love Yourself Award Honoree:
LeAnn Cerise-Peaches Harris

To purchase $35 tickets click 🔗 link in bio

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/5th-annual-love-yourself-brunch-tickets-1993680788908?aff=oddtdtcreator

or you can scan the QR code on flyer visit Eventbrite or our website. They will be more at the door .

If you unable to attend you can still donate to this worthy cause. We are trying to assist those suffering in silence escape trauma and abuse .

All proceeds are tax-deductible and provide family support services.

www.angelshavinn.com 💜