12/29/2025
🔥 Hot Takes From a Wedding Venue (Anti-Wedding-Industry Edition)
• You don’t need ‘upgrades’ — you need clarity about what actually matters to you.
Half of what venues sell are add-ons couples didn’t want until someone told them they should.
• A wedding isn’t a luxury product — it’s a gathering of your people.
The industry sells performance and perfection; meaning comes from presence.
• Tradition isn’t a requirement — it’s a menu. Take what nourishes you and leave the rest.
• Guest count drives cost more than anything else — shrinking your guest list is the most ethical money decision you can make.
Fewer guests = less food, less waste, less pressure, more connection.
• DIY doesn’t mean cheap — it means intentional. Handmade, repurposed, or borrowed details are often more beautiful than mass-produced décor.
• If a vendor makes you feel ‘behind’ or ‘not enough,’ they’re selling fear — not service.
A good vendor supports your values instead of manufacturing urgency.
• You don’t need a theme, aesthetic, or brand — you need a space that feels like you.
‘On-trend’ ages fast. Authenticity doesn’t.
• Luxury is quiet time, good food, and people who love you — not chandeliers and chair covers.”
Comfort over spectacle.
• Eloping or having a potluck backyard wedding is not ‘less than.’ It’s a conscious choice.
The most meaningful weddings are often the simplest.
• Sustainability isn’t a buzzword — it’s choosing fewer things, reusable things, and local things.
Rentals over disposables. Seasonal Florals. Thrifted items.
