19/11/2024
This has been on my mind for a long time to write but I kept shifting it. The fear of what people will say made me shrink but right now I don't really care because i know who and what I live for.
The loss of a loved one is a very deep pain that only the person involved directly can explain. No matter how close you are, you may never understand how deep the pain and grief the person is feeling.
Till today if the name of my late sister is mentioned depending on what the conversation is, my mom still sheds tears. My sister died more than 30 years years ago
I'm writing this to encourage everyone who has lost someone dear not because I have healed of mine but I have chosen to use my pain to soothe others and in doing so I receive healing on a daily basis.
Like I said, no one understands what you feel like you do but one thing is certain because you are still here, God has a plan for you. The first thing to do is to find out the purpose for the pain and trust me when I say that if you ask, God will answer. Once you are able to establish that, it will be a bit easier to cope with the loss.
Someone asked me a question sometime ago and it made me rethink. He said "What do you think your late husband will want to see when he looks down, that if it is possible to see" Do you want him to see someone who has given up trying?
What if he agreed to leave because he knew you would be able to handle what he left behind? For a very long time those words hunted me and I always felt as though his eyes were watching everything I did so I became a bit careful even with words.
This one goes to widows directly, have it at the back of your mind that the only true company you have are your children that if you were blessed with them. The world is not nice to us. People will always see you as a burden so be careful who you vent on. Only God knows how to send Angels in human form to make life easier and trust me they are very few of them.
Like I said earlier, it was your spouse that died God is still alive. If you have Him, He will always come through for you. I'm not going to talk about our fellow females who intentionally make life difficult for us, this one is story for another day
I'm not a man so I may not really know how it is for the men who lost their wives but in all, I pray that we all get help and get healed
I pray that we overcome grief
I pray that when we look back after many years, we will be proud of the choices we made.
I pray that the comfort of the Holy Spirit will not depart from us.
I pray that we will find true happiness in genuine friendships that God will send our way.
I pray that a day will come when we will be able to tell our stories without shedding a tear. 🙏
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