18/06/2025
Been meaning to share a personal post. I forget that many of us are quietly navigating the same storm. So here’s a piece of mine:
Before motherhood, life felt simpler. Goals, hobbies, always chasing the next project.
Then came Isla, a beautiful, overwhelming shift. Suddenly I’m not just me, I’m someone’s mum.
Lately it’s been hard recognising myself. 20 months in, you’d think it gets easier, settled, more “I’m used to it”, right?
These days I’m juggling full-time work, parenting, running two TMC areas, taking on webdev projects, and growing ideas for things I’d love to build - when my plate is already overflowing.
Some days I feel inspired and driven. Others stretched and scattered. That’s okay. This season isn’t about snapping back - it’s about evolving, even when it feels like there’s no clear path.
Stress caught up with me last week - literally. I found a bald patch 🤯. A sharp, physical reminder that I can’t (and don’t need to) do it all alone. We can’t pour from an empty cup.
And with all of this, something I don’t ever talk about: how hard I find it to stand up for myself.
Saying no. Being assertive. Even when it doesn’t sit right - like not loving that haircut - I smile and say thanks. I hate making others uncomfortable, even if it costs me my own.
Yesterday, I pushed back on something. A flicker of pride followed by an avalanche of anxiety. That’s what’s hard to sit with. Growth is uncomfortable - especially when you’ve always been the “quiet one”, the “nice one”, the “it’s fine one”.
But maybe this is part of the evolution too. Reclaiming your voice, even if your hands shake doing it.
So to the mums juggling identity, work, dreams, and daily life - I see you. You’re doing more than you think. Be kind to yourself 💛
To the ones learning how to speak up, set boundaries, or simply say “I need help” - I see you. Give yourself grace 💛
Be bold, be soft, whatever you want - all these things at once. You’ll still be enough.
Sending love to those who needed to hear this 🫶🏻