30/09/2026
Iāve sat with my thoughts around this because I really wanted to speak honestly without turning someone elseās deeply personal experience into something to shame because none of us know every layer of another persons relationship with their sexuality
But I also want to create room to talk about why the casual framing of sleeping with a man as someone who identifies as a le***an āout of boredomā feels so uncomfortable to many of us who donāt share that experience
As a femme I know so well what itās like to have my sexuality heard & then immediately questioned. The āwhat a wasteā the āyou just havenāt met the right manā and the moment of wondering whether claiming my sexuality will make a rejection of a man safer or turn it into a challenge
Those are the kinds of experiences I bring into this conversation because in a world that so often expects women to centre men, le***anism has given me language for a love, desire & future that entirely centres women in all their beautiful complexities & divinities
Thereās so much sacredness & sanctuary in that for me and thereās also so much history behind the word and the label itself that I care so deeply about
Someone elseās fluidity doesnāt make mine or anyone elseās certainty less real. My certainty also doesnāt give the want nor permission to shame someone else or their experience. Nobodyās sexuality however they understand it makes their boundaries negotiable
I want us to be able to hold that nuance while still asking for care in how le***anism is discussed especially publically and to give room to hear le***ans naming something painful without immediately dismissing them or calling them ārigidā or ānot open minded enoughā around questioning a public comment without making the person behind it a target
I love being a le***an and Iāll never stop finding a way to talk about the real experiences, complexities and divinity found within that. Thereās is no universe nor realm or galaxy where I could ever & I mean ever get bored of women (but that probably doesnāt come as any surprise)
I hope we can keep finding language for these things together with room for both honesty & care even when its difficultš§”š©·š§”š©·