30/07/2026
Great ways you can help as a new first time dad 👇🏼
So the new baby has arrived, and it’s perfectly normal (I come across this all the time) for some dads to feel a little lost or pushed out. Mums have this connection with a baby that had a 9 month head start. Our bodies and instincts have been getting ready for this.
Things you can do -
For the Dads whose babies are on the boob…
Cut up mums food before she eats, we all know as soon as there’s food on the table that’s when the babies going to get hungry and eating one handed is a nightmare.
Offer fluids as often as possible and keep mums water bottle filled. This is a god send and will increase milk flow.
Support mums arm by chucking a pillow under her elbow or behind her back while she’s feeding. We always forget and our back at 6 months PP will thank you!
Order food, cook, anything around the house is invaluable. Because mum is likely tied to the baby 😆 if you’re not very domesticated I’m not here to shame you, get a cleaner in once a week. Anything to help lighten the load.
If your new baby is bottle fed, clean and sterilise bottles, offer to take one of the night feeds or the last evening feed as you may be able to settle the baby better in the evening.
Run mum a bath one evening with bubbles, little things like this can honestly make your day when you’re in the absolute trenches of recovery.
Remember all these things are directly beneficial to not only your partner but your new baby too. The happier your partner the easier it is to regulate both hers and the babies nervous system and recover from birth and post partum.
I can guarantee that the more well looked after your partner in these early months the better relationship you will have with your child their entire life.
…… and of course book her all the shoots and show up and get involved because we all know dads hate photoshoots but she’s just pushed a watermelon out of her body. 🙏🏼
Share this with a soon to be first time dad 🫶🏼
