26/07/2026
After going through my nanna living with vascular dementia and her being in a care home for several years, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what going into care homes to deliver singing & movement sessions would look like. Here are just a few things I’ve learnt along the way since launching Melodies & Memories….
🎶 It’s okay if a resident becomes emotional during a song. It’s cathartic for them to go through that emotion and be given a safe space to remember a precious moment/ time/ person that they may link that particular song to.
😑 It’s okay if some residents aren’t participating in, or don’t look like they’re enjoying, the session. I’ve had many residents not express a single smile or copied one step during the session, to the point where I’ve panicked internally and thought “Oh no, they’re not feeling this at all 😩”, but they always come up to me afterwards and say “I really enjoyed that!”. They may not always feel comfortable or confident attempting to copy steps or sing along to the lyrics of a song, but they are taking it all in and enjoying it their own way.
😴 It’s okay if a resident wants to have a little snooze during my sessions- I don’t take it personally! The exercise songs we did may have tired them out, they may not have had a good night’s sleep the night before, they may be feeling slightly under the weather, or they may just be a bit full from a delicious lunch! (We’ve all been there- give me a big bowl of pasta and I’m in a food coma for at least a good 2 hours afterwards 🥱)
🤬 It’s okay if a resident uses ‘choice’ language with me- there were all kinds of different characters in my nanna’s care home over the years, all living with different stages of dementia, and it’s nothing I haven’t heard before! Plus I may have just caught them on a day where they really REALLY don’t fancy waving a floaty scarf around, and that’s their prerogative to refuse said floaty scarf 😂
Each session is a chance to learn more, develop my skills, and most importantly to grow as a person. And I’m very grateful for that 😌