Debbie Martin - Humanist Funerals & Weddings

09/10/2026

Well put, Stephen! As humanists, we don't believe in any kind of religious afterlife. But that doesn't mean nothing of us lives on: we are remembered in the people we love, the work we do and the world we leave behind.

That idea is the first of seven humanist foundations in Andrew Copson's new book's . Link in bio.

11/09/2026

TOO MUCH PAIN

You were just in too much pain
to keep on living
I’m sorry that I only see that now.
I think your soul was just too bruised
to keep on giving
you had to end the agony somehow.

If I’d called you just once more
could I have saved you?
Would my need to have you here
be enough?
Could I have uttered some wise words
to help you push through?
How I’ll miss my wondrous
diamond in the rough.

You were wrong to think
the world is best without you
how could that be
when you were just so full of light?
I know your demons made you think
life didn’t want you
and you’d be better off surrendering
to the night.

You were just in too much pain
to keep on breaking
and I’m sorry that I didn’t
have the glue.
You smiled so wide
no one could ever see you faking
you had a way of glowing bright
that seemed so true.

So may you sleep now love
the best you’ve ever slumbered,
for you deserve to feel the peace
you’ve never had.
You fought so hard but in the end
you were outnumbered
you feel no pain now
and for that, at least

I’m glad.

Donna Ashworth

Art by the wonderful Lucy Campbell

My love to all who know this pain from inside or outside. We need one another 💔

In memory of Lauren 💛

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11/09/2026

03/09/2026

Day out at Wisley Gardens yesterday, for the flower show and so many glorious dahlias ❤️🧡💖💚💜🩵

Isn’t nature incredible?

01/09/2026

Taking time out in nature at today.

I enjoyed a walk around the beautiful gardens with my dog Bodie 💜. He was tired out after and we both had a nap back at home 💖

It feels important to take time to rest and recharge 💜💖



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30/08/2026

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Dolly Parton was a living embodiment of American exceptionalism. Everything about her was exceptional: her songwriting, her voice, her appearance and her sense of self. The response to her passing has only served to underline just how exceptional she was. And in the past 24 hours, as people have reflected on her life and career, her exceptional compassion has shone through too.

If you knew nothing about Dolly, other than she was an 80 year old woman from rural Appalachia who dressed in rhinestone studded costumes, sang country music and was a person of strong faith, you might assume she would be part of the MAGA movement.

Yet at a time when some who claim to be followers of Jesus Christ are talking about “the sin of empathy” and claiming that loving thy neighbour as thyself will lead to the end of western civilisation, Dolly’s faith led her to embrace everyone. When asked to comment on the introduction of anti-trans legislation in Tennessee where she lives, she spoke in support of the transgender community.

“I just see how broken-hearted they get over certain things and I know how real they are. I know how important this is to them” she told the Hollywood Reporter in 2023 “That’s who they are. They cannot help that any more than I can help being Dolly Parton, you know, the way people know me. If there’s something to be judged, that is God’s business. But we are all God’s children and how we are is who we are.”

The fact that Dolly Parton was beloved by Republicans and Democrats alike is a reminder that the compassionate America has not gone away, that it still endures and inspires despite being eclipsed by Trumpism for the past decade. And in many ways, Dolly was the Anti-Trump, self effacing where he is self aggrandising, benevolent where he is transactional, sincere where he is cynical and unifying where his is divisive.

There was no Us and Them with Dolly. Her stock response to questions of politics was to state that she “just wanted everyone to be treated good”.

Her passing is a great loss, but she remains an example to all of us who base our politics on that principle.

28/08/2026

What do 2 funeral celebrants do for fun on a Friday night? We go for a bat walk at a burial ground, of course 💖🖤🦇

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Great to see you Sarah 💖🤩🌅

20/08/2026

A heartfelt farewell today to lovely J, a much loved mum, grandma and great grandma. She loved bright colours, cats and butterflies, so I dressed accordingly 💖🦋😻

There were tears and laughter as we shared stories and remembered a precious life. 🌸💖🦋

13/08/2026

Lucky me getting to marry these 2 beauties yesterday at Brighton Beach Bandstand. I’ve got to know M&J over several months and led their humanist ceremony yesterday. It was a fabulous bi-lingual wedding filled with joy, laughter and happy tears.

I love my job and couldn’t stop smiling 💖 Thank you M&J for asking me to be your celebrant. It’s been an absolute pleasure and delight. I wish you all the happiness in the world 💖🧡

If you’re planning to get married and want a lovely, fun, happy, relaxed ceremony that is totally you, then message me. I’m a confident, experienced celebrant who particularly loves an outdoor ceremony. 💖🧡🩵💜 LGBTQ+ wedding enquiries positively welcomed ❤️🩵💜🧡💖💚