07/04/2025
Many of you have seen my beautiful husband and I tied the knot in January of this year! ✨🤍 after 8 years of wedding photography, I wanted to share what helped make our day feel authentic to us and I hope this helps my couples getting married or just engaged !
I understand how it can feel so overwhelming getting married with the burden of wanting everything to be perfect and the stress of people pleasing and family responsibilities.
Here is what we did to ensure our dream vision was met! (this is what suited us, and may feel different for you and that’s okay too!)
1. We decided very early on what we valued in the day, and what we didn’t care about. If it wasn’t a “hell yes” it was a no thank you!
2. We set a clear budget using a template spreadsheet. It was fabulous and easy to use.
3. We got suppliers we trusted and especially vibed with our photographer, videographer & content creator who can SAVE YOUR DAY! They are your second bride tribe so make sure you love their company and they are your HYPE TEAM because they are there for EVERY MOMENT if their energy is yucky it can ruin the day.
4. We only invited our intimate family & friends, and didn’t invite people we had NEVER MET or out of obligation or expectations. That meant plus one’s wasn’t an option. It wasn’t about numbers for us or “can they fit” it was about CONNECTION.
5. We were okay with pi***ng people off 😂 People who are pi**ed off are making it about them. My couples, be okay that people will be pi**ed off no matter what you do.
6. We didn’t share much of our planning with others only a select few - this can overwhelm and cause a lot of confusion with too many cooks in the kitchen.
7. We understood that weddings will reveal what’s already inside for your guests - either joy or pain. It’s a weird thing but all my couples report this because weddings are seen as this huge “life success” and can often reveal unhappiness in others.
8. We knew it wouldn’t go perfectly and we had 3 top things we wanted to go at least 80% perfectly 🙌🏽
And lastly, we understood and valued our marriage over one wedding day! ✨🌸