Nourished. by Angelic Elrod

09/25/2025

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ℹ️🌿 WHAT YOUR FAMILY DIDN’T SAY STILL GOT PASSED DOWN |

There is a stubborn belief, especially in pull-yourself-up cultures, that if something did not happen directly to you, it should not affect you. People want to assume trauma stops with the person who first lived it.

That is not how trauma works. Not biologically. Not emotionally. Not across generations. Trauma does not live only in memory. It embeds in family systems and daily practices. If nobody interrupts the system, it keeps replicating quietly, reflexively, and sometimes violently.

Trauma can alter the expression of genes. That is epigenetics. Stress, famine, displacement, and chronic fear can leave biochemical markers on DNA packaging that change gene function without changing the genetic code.

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09/25/2025

The Root of Abandonment

“Abandonment begins long before anyone actually leaves.”
As children, we are born with one sacred need: connection. Safety, love, and belonging are the ground our nervous system grows upon. But when those needs go unmet, through neglect, criticism, inconsistency, or outright absence, we receive the message: parts of me are unsafe, unlovable, or too much.
Instead of abandoning our caregivers (an impossible act for a child dependent on survival), we do the only thing we can: we abandon ourselves.

We silence our voice.
We shrink our presence.
We mask our true Self.

This is the first fracture of the psyche. The child trades authenticity for attachment.
Over time, this silencing solidifies into a survival system:
“If I leave me, maybe they won’t leave me.”
And so, the wound of abandonment doesn’t start when someone walks away; it starts the first time you walked away from yourself.

How It Shows Up Later
In childhood, it looks like:
Becoming “the good one” to earn love.
Hiding feelings to avoid rejection.
Walking on eggshells to prevent loss.
In adulthood, it looks like:
Hyper-focusing on others while ignoring your own needs.
Fear of intimacy or disappearing when things get close.
Shame when you set boundaries or show imperfection.
Obsessing over being “too much” or “not enough.”

The Way Back

Healing begins the moment you realize: the real loss wasn’t them leaving; it was you leaving you.
Notice when you abandon yourself. Do you silence your truth to keep peace? Do you numb instead of feel? That’s the fracture replaying itself.
Choose presence. Instead of running, breathe. Stay with your body. Stay with your feelings.
Reassure the child. Whisper inwardly: “I won’t leave you again.” That is the repair.
Build loyalty to your Self. Each boundary, each truth, each breath of presence is a brick in the home you’re rebuilding.

09/24/2025

Openings on Thursday and Saturday!
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09/23/2025

09/23/2025

The world has so much to say to teens. They are constantly being bombarded with who they should be. They are constantly having to redefine who they are according to what the people around them are projecting onto them. Their brains are growing at such a high rate, their environments providing the stimuli that alters the very way they view themselves. No human is perfect, our kids are not perfect. But one thing they should never doubt is whether they are love even when they are imperfect. More than ever I find myself advocating for my son. As I watch the s**tty ness of the world constantly try to chip at his joy and kindness, I just keep praying those who love him will be a beacon of light to show him his way back to heart time and time again. I hope I love him so loud he doesn’t ever hear the other voices whispering the dumb s**t. Love you pa

09/19/2025

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09/18/2025

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