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Inremember is a family-owned company that offers specialized services for personal and unique celebrations of life. We provide alternative options to traditional funerals, including event technology, streaming, print, music, logistics, and event management services. With over 25 years of experience in special event production, we understand how overwhelming and difficult it can be to plan a memori

al after a loved one's passing. Our team is here to help families focus on telling the story of their loved one's remarkable life, while we take care of the logistics. We're based in the Greater Washington, DC area, but we're available to help families create personalized farewells anywhere, anytime.

This is a tough one. But that’s why you are here. To learn.
08/23/2023

This is a tough one. But that’s why you are here. To learn.

My loved one is expected to die. If she dies at night do I need to call the ambulance and the police?

This is a question I’m often asked, when visiting dying patients in their homes.

"What do we do when ___ dies?

You do not have to call the police or the ambulance, if it is an expected death, or if someone has a terminal illness or if the person Is elderly. This is not an emergency, there is nothing for anyone to do right away.

Please don’t rush to do anything, sit with your person, and be there with them, this is a sacred time, which you will never get back.

You may want to call family or friends to be there with you.

After your loved one has died, if you can, it is advised that they are laid on their back, with their arms either, across the chest, or by their sides. Preferably using one small pillow under the head. If the bed has a raised head rest, then lay it flat.

The room should be kept cool, you can have air conditioning turned on, or a fan, if it’s cool outside you can open a window. Some people feel opening a window allows to soul to be released.

Your family member, or friend that has died, will loose their body warmth and become cooler to touch, their colour will probably become pale at first, then you will notice parts of the body becoming waxy looking and bluey grey and/or blotchy discolouration will occur.

Approximately 2 hours after death, rigor mortis begins to occur in the muscles of the face, and progresses to the limbs and body over the next few hours, this causes the body to harden and become stiff, after around 8 - 12 hours it becomes immovable. This is temporary, for around 24 - 72hrs. The funeral services will be able to move your loved one when the rigor mortis / stiffness wears off, so please don’t worry, if they aren’t in the position you would like them to be. The funeral services will also be able to assist with washing and dressing too.

You can touch your loved one, and lay next to them if you want to. Pets that are around will sometimes want to be close, they are often sensitive to what’s happened.

There are some things you can do after death, but nothing has to be done, you must do what feels right for you. There is no right or wrong way, it is all personal choice.

You may like to wash your loved one, and dress them, or you may be ok with leaving them how they were when they died. The funeral services can help you with this later, if you prefer. Sometimes your loved one may loose body fluids, you can put a small incontinence pad in place, if they don’t already have one on, if you want to.

You may wish to spray their favourite perfume or aftershave, or apply deodorant.

If your loved one has jewellery on, you may wish to remove it, if you want to leave it on, or have help to remove it, discuss this with the funeral services when they arrive.

Sometimes when rolling your loved one , they may have secretions come from their mouth, a small hand towel can be placed on the side of the mouth, you are rolling them towards, just in case.

Some people die with their mouth remaining open. You can put a small rolled towel or pillow under the chin, to hold it closed. Or you can gently tie a bandage or something similar, placed under the chin and tied over the crown of the head, to bring the mouth together. If you want to.

Their eyes may also be open, they may close if you gently shut them. Sometimes, if someone has lost a lot of weight, the area above the eyes looses the fat deposits, and the eyes won’t stay shut, some people lightly tape them shut, or the funeral services will attend to this for you.

If your loved one has a catheter or medicine pump, the person attending to do the assessment should remove these for you.

If children have been involved, they too can still be involved, I have been to many deaths, when the children are present, up on the bed with the dead person, or playing in the room. Try to explain to them what’s happened , in words they understand. Being present helps them understand and grieve in their own way.

When you feel ready you can call the Gp, Palliative Care Team or a service who have been involved, that are happy to do the assessments to confirm your loved one has died. The assessments check for heart beat, respirations, pulse and the eyes reaction to light. And nil response to pain stimuli.

Only call the funeral services after you have the paperwork that confirms your loved one has died, as they need this paperwork to be able to take your loved one to the funeral home.

If you are expecting your loved one to die, it is helpful to check who will do the necessary assessments. If it’s the GP , you would have to check they do house calls, if they don’t, they can hopefully advise you of a GP that does.

I hope this helps to explain what you need to do when someone dies, and those things you can do if you choose to.

Please feel free to ask any questions, if there is anything you are unsure of.

08/20/2023

📫 Fan Mail Friday on

This weekend marks 5 years since Greta Thunberg first sat down in front of Sweden’s Parliament House, on Aug 20, 2018. Since then, greenhouse emissions have risen. Fires and heatwaves monopolize the headlines. Yet she has said “I’m telling you there is hope. I have seen it, but it does not come from the governments or corporations. It comes from the people.” There’s much we can do in our lifetime, and also in death. 🌎 💚

Thank you KB.

08/20/2023
h/t to Demystifying Death and Beyond for their SevenPonds blog repost. The topic here is our collective fear of death an...
08/19/2023

h/t to Demystifying Death and Beyond for their SevenPonds blog repost. The topic here is our collective fear of death and dead bodies. It’s useful to learn about other cultures and their death traditions (like the Romani); which might help explain the Western ‘Melting Pot’ Culture. At some deep level perhaps this kind of insight helps us to understand the DNA or threads that are sewn into us at some unconscious level when it comes to how we approach dying, death, corpses, and memorization.

Romani funeral traditions are characterized by abundance. Enormous, full of relatives, public mourning and solemn ritual, their burial rites amount to a massive procession taken very seriously by everyone involved. Their zeal may arise from a widespread belief in the … Continue reading →

Ever hear of a living funeral? It’s a wonderful idea. Read this: After Sam Skelton was diagnosed with terminal cancer, s...
08/19/2023

Ever hear of a living funeral? It’s a wonderful idea. Read this:

After Sam Skelton was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she began considering a very different take on the traditional funeral - by being there to appreciate it herself in the form of a ‘living funeral’.

“When you have a terminal diagnosis one of the hardest things to deal with is the idea of the distress and grief you are causing all of those around you. I want to be able to let go and forgive my body for failing, and forgive myself for abandoning everyone and everything I love.

"It really made me think of the importance of being able to say those last words, it’s important for those grieving but also for me to actually hear them.”

Sam shared her vision for the day: "I would have a ceremony led by a friend, music I choose, eulogies given by a few people, chances for others to either speak or write in a memories book. There would also be food and drink afterwards, and lots of hugging and proper saying goodbye."

08/19/2023

08/19/2023

“Birth is to life what dying is to death.” - Steve Levine

Inremember is a service of Potomac Talent, a full service integrated event agency specializing in Event Production for C...
08/17/2023

Inremember is a service of Potomac Talent, a full service integrated event agency specializing in Event Production for Conferences of all sizes. We just so happen to also be in the Deathcare industry. And would love to be a part of your conference.

Attn: Executive Directors and Planners for Associations and Non-profits, your conferences deserve the best. Potomac Talent offers a game-changing blend of cutting-edge event technology, seamless event management, and captivating entertainment—all at a fraction of the cost of traditional hotel A/V services (and hotels don't have the capabilites you really need). We offer cutting-edge tech, expert management, appropriate music, and speakers bureau services - all at a fraction of traditional costs.

🌟 Maximized Budget
🌟 State-of-the-Art Tech
🌟 Expert Management
🌟 Fully Immersed in the Good Death / Death Positive Movement

Contact me here on FB directly, or on my website (see below), or in our www.Inremember.com website. Hotel A/V is expensive and for the most, horrible to deal with. We're affordable, available to consult or hire as your technical advisor as needed, and will be by your side every step of the way. — Eric Cathcart, Sr. Live Event Producer

But of course.
08/17/2023

But of course.

Via our good friends at The Good Earth, LLC. While on a Death Cafe the other night, this topic came up. Having a rock so...
08/17/2023

Via our good friends at The Good Earth, LLC.

While on a Death Cafe the other night, this topic came up. Having a rock solid DNR was the groups biggest concern. The number one concern most people have when thinking about how they’ll die is that they(we) don’t want pain and suffering. This is a very sad story about a family. Probably many families have done the same thing. Please read this.

Here is another great post from Debbie Moore-Black. This was first published in 2016 and is one of the reasons I fell in love with her content. Please enjoy: They said, “Do everything.” She knew something was wrong. And by the time she was 85, she had forgotten the names of her children, the tow...

08/17/2023

“The thing about losing someone is that it doesn’t happen just once. It happens every time you do something great you wish they could see, every time you’re stuck and you need advice. Every time you fail. It erodes your sense of normal, and what grows back is decidedly not normal, and yet you still have to figure out how to trudge forward.”
― Rachel Lynn Solomon

Regarding Hospice and a Good Death.
08/17/2023

Regarding Hospice and a Good Death.

On February 18, after a series of hospital stays, Former President Jimmy Carter made the courageous choice to elect hospice care for his end-of-life journey in the comfort of his home in Plains, Georgia. This week marks a huge milestone for the Carter family as he has now been on hospice for six months.

As the Value of Hospice in Medicare study shows, at any length of stay, hospice benefits patients, family members, and caregivers, including increased satisfaction and quality of life, improved pain control, reduced physical and emotional distress, and reduced prolonged grief and other emotional distress. More people are choosing hospice than ever before; yet only half of the total number of people who are eligible for hospice care select it.

President Carter continues to have an impact by sparking a national dialogue on the many benefits of hospice. This six-month milestone for the Carter family offers a time for reflection on the importance of planning “a good death.”

Thank you, President Carter, for lighting a way for all of us.

Sharing because so many of you are curious about green burials.
08/17/2023

Sharing because so many of you are curious about green burials.

Morning shrouding board delivery. Simple pine with no toxic glue or metal. These aid in carrying a loved one wrapped in a shroud.

Have you ever had a SDE or have been with a person who had a SDE? I was with one of my best H.S. Friends after being out...
08/17/2023

Have you ever had a SDE or have been with a person who had a SDE? I was with one of my best H.S. Friends after being out late partying. My buddy was driving us home when he suddenly said, “Tommy just died.” Tommy was his older brother. Of course I said something like, “That’s ridiculous” as I stepped out of his car. I would find out later that morning that the police paid a visit to his house and parents to tell them that there had been a bad car accident which took the life of their oldest son. Thank you Shared Crossing Project for reminding me just how much we really don’t understand the many mysteries of death and its unimaginable energy that is swimming around us and through us all at the same time. We are truly miracles. And it’s all miraculous isn’t it? Not a sermon. Just a thought.

Based on a study of 164 SDE accounts reported by 107 individuals, 64% of Shared Death Experience (SDE) accounts were reported by individuals who were physically distant from the dying patient or loved one. This means that even if you are not within the vicinity of your dying loved one, you are still able to have these extraordinary occurrences💙

An SDE is when a caregiver or loved one describes sharing in the transition of the dying to a benevolent afterlife. SDEs typically occur right around the time of death, but can occur moments, hours, days, or even weeks before or after a death.

To learn more about the Shared Crossing Research Initiative and our research, visit us at www.sharedcrossing.com/research.

08/17/2023

The earth nurtures all of us through life, and equally, in death. Natural burial grounds are a loving space for people of all backgrounds, denominations, and lived experiences. Happy Pride Month! 🌈

Love this!
08/17/2023

Love this!

If you’re the ‘no bells and whistles’ type, natural burial might be the way to gooooo. No varnished wood caskets, no incinerator, no fancy urn, no process at all, just nature and a simple biodegradable casket or a shroud. 🍃

08/16/2023

The Story is a story about the movement.

When Jack Tuller, a man with a terminal brain tumor for 25 years, decides to end his life, his family and friends struggle to accept his decision. Jack’s best friend documents his three-year quest to die a happy man, culminating in a permanent going-away party.

About the Film
JACK HAS A PLAN is a 73-minute feature documentary directed by Bradley Berman. It was completed in April 2022.
Awards
Best of Fest Award – DC Independent Film Festival
Best of Fest Award – Oneota Film Festival
Impact Award – Boulder International Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary – Dances With Films Festival (LA)
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature – Alameda International Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature – Mystic Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature – Oceanside International Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature – Atlanta DocuFest
David Kleiler Cinephile Award – Newburyport Documentary Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Feature – Central Coast Filmmaker Showcase – San Luis Obispo International Film Festival
Audience Award – Best Documentary Feature – Calgary Underground Documentary Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature and Audience Award – Best Documentary Feature – Lake County Film Festival
Audience Award – Best Feature – DOCUTAH International Film Festival
Jury Ward – Best Documentary Feature – South Georgia Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature Finalist – Twin Cities Film Festival
Jury Award – Honorable Mention – New Jersey Film Festival
Jury Award – Best Documentary Feature Honorable Mention – Ojai Film Festival

08/16/2023

In conversations with people who don’t really want to think about death or disposition, I sometimes hear, “Just leave my dead body in the forest under a tree”.
We can do that.
It’s called Natural Burial.

This beautiful example of a Natural Burial is from The Forest Conservation Burial Ground of Southern Oregon




I don’t like being around people who haven’t been touched by death, who haven’t embraced mortality.Death humbles us.  I ...
08/16/2023

I don’t like being around people who haven’t been touched by death, who haven’t embraced mortality.

Death humbles us. I don’t like proud people.

Death brings us closer to our mortality. I don’t like people who feel invincible.

Death brings unanswerable questions. I don’t like people who have all the answers.

Death trains us in silence. I don’t need people in my life who try to fill silence with words.

Death unites me with every human, every thing — past, present and future — on this planet and beyond. I don’t need people who separate themselves, blinded to this universal connectedness.

Death helps us befriend sadness. Toxic positivity is real and I can do without, thank you very much.

Death is the great iconoclast for superficial achievements. I don’t want to hear about your career, your degrees, your bank account and success. Show me your soul.

Death is the permanent reminder that we’re human. I’ve been around those who try to be the god of their world and I can do without them.

Death is where I meet you, where you meet me. And that’s all I want. All the other s**t isn’t worth this small amount of time I have to experience the magic and mystery of this cosmic miracle we call life.

Turns out those who are full of life are those who’ve embraced death. Those are my people.

Here’s a great article about the challenges our culture has when it comes to burying our dead. About misinformation and ...
08/16/2023

Here’s a great article about the challenges our culture has when it comes to burying our dead. About misinformation and the lack of information. And how a community responds to change.

For most, simpler death care is about our connection to the wider web of life and our sense of responsibility to care for the entire creation.

Love this!
08/16/2023

Love this!

The topic of final directives seemed to be the guiding direction of tonight’s Death Cafe. If you’re interested in experi...
08/16/2023

The topic of final directives seemed to be the guiding direction of tonight’s Death Cafe. If you’re interested in experiencing a Death Cafe’ meet up, message me here and I can send you a Zoom link for next month’s Meet Up.

A full-body sea burial was Stuart's parting wish. Family members wrote messages on his weighted sail cloth shroud before it was deployed into the ocean off the Ventura coast.

To learn more about Sacred Crossings’ Full-Body Sea Burials, please visit the link below:

https://sacredcrossingsfuneralhome.com/full-body-sea-burials-los-angeles/

Just beautiful work.
08/16/2023

Just beautiful work.

Many ask if it’s hard to put these caskets in the ground after putting in so much time and care, and really it’s the opposite—I can’t think of a greater honor than to have my work chosen to carry someone’s body home into the earth. But I’m glad to know that this one will also spend time, likely many years, as a storage basket, soaking up even more memories.

Inremember passionately shares life stories through unique services focused on memory, remembrance, and commemoration, s...
08/15/2023

Inremember passionately shares life stories through unique services focused on memory, remembrance, and commemoration, specializing in memorial services and cutting-edge memory preservation technology. We curate personalized 'Celebrations of Life' gatherings and facilitate digital memorials for families. Engaging in legacy projects and educational initiatives, we encourage open conversations about death, grief, and the creative spirit that emerges in its wake. Join us in fostering meaningful remembrance and honoring of loved ones and significant life moments. "

08/15/2023
Truth.
08/05/2023

Truth.



Just call me your friendly neighbourhood Death Lady.

Oh, they have.

Greetings, Compassionate Souls. I'm sharing something close to my heart, convinced that within the realm of loss and sor...
08/04/2023

Greetings, Compassionate Souls. I'm sharing something close to my heart, convinced that within the realm of loss and sorrow lies the realm of imagination and immense creativity. My role as a professional event producer involves crafting unique celebrations of life and alternative funerals for grieving families. Positioned between funeral homes and places of worship, I specialize in curating personalized farewell gatherings, regardless of faith or location.

Let me introduce you to Turner—a remarkable 32-year-old destined for Michelin Star greatness in the culinary world. Tragically, he was claimed by the sea during a kayaking expedition in Puget Sound. His body remains undiscovered, forever lost to the waves. In a poignant and poetic tribute, his mother, an artist, meticulously hand-dipped these commemorative candles for all attendees—a truly remarkable outpouring of pure creative spirit.

I extend my admiration to all who've embraced this vocation. Together, we can restore depth to the grieving experience—offering families a chance to encounter something profoundly meaningful that the conventional funeral industry has often overshadowed. Stay optimistic, and let's continue to foster and celebrate the boundless realm of creativity.

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The Positive Death Revolution

We occupy the space between religious houses of worship and funeral homes best described as a 'third place' that for many, never knew existed. It is a place where bereaved families are allowed, without judgment or rules, to create a tribute gathering with friends, family, and colleagues, that honors final wishes.

People work with us because they need to trust someone to lead them through the planning process and do things the right way without disappointing or painful surprises. Family-owned and operated since 1997, our place is to listen, be mindful and respectful to your grief, and to hopefully provide all the resources and solutions in one affordable place without pressure.

We believe in challenging our traditional industry-led funerals that leave little room for meaningful family involvement. And we believe in the awesomeness of life and celebrating a legacy. Inremember is a new leader and proponent of a relatively new and positive Death Revolution movement. This fast-growing movement is empowering families to take back mortality from an unsustainable industry designed to keep death at a distance. We believe in personalization and choice where each celebration is not standardized but unique and more life-centered around the person's personality, likes and dislikes. And we respect those who don't have a faith family and seek alternative ways to help others through times of loss and grief through imaginative and meaningful new rituals without rules. At our core, we are experienced special events professionals orchestrating memorials full of detail and experience while helping you create a sacred space anywhere with no judgement or limitations. This approach makes us very unique. Welcome to Inremember.

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