03/06/2025
This May 31st was different.
It was the first time I ever took on a wedding on my birthdayâturning 33, surrounded by beauty, pressure, and the kind of magic only a wedding day can bring. But it ended with heat stroke, two days of recovery, and some hard-earned truths about what it means to love what you do⌠even when it doesn't always love you back the way you hoped.
After over 7 years of running my own wedding company, this day taught me that no matter how experienced or dedicated you are, there is always room to grow and protect your peace.
đĄ Hereâs what I learned:
1. My team and I are capable of serving 150+ guests with skill and heart. We showed up, we hustled, and we deliveredâdespite intense heat and limited working conditions.
2. I need to ask even more questions upfrontâbecause âoh itâs at a hangarâ doesnât tell me the massive doors will stay open for hours and ruin delicate items like florals and cake. I need to know where I'm prepping fresh food onsite so I can keep it safe, elegant, and worthy of the couple.
3. I need to deal with the logistics teamânot just the couple. Because when I try to be accommodating and âjust figure it out,â I end up getting burned. Literally and metaphorically.
4. Iâve never had an event where I wasnât told someone was unhappyâand not given the opportunity to fix it in the moment. That part? Hurt. Because I pride myself on solutions. I move mountains for my couples. I never walk away from a problemâI lean in. But this time, I didnât get the chance. And that silence spoke volumes.
This experience broke me a little. But only in the way the right lessons doâbreaking you open, not down. Letting you rebuild stronger boundaries, clearer expectations, and a deeper sense of pride in how far youâve come.
So yesâI worked a wedding on my birthday.
Yesâit nearly broke my body.
YesâI cried on the drive home.
But I also learned. And Iâm still hereâgrateful, wiser, and more committed than ever to making magic for those who see the heart I put into it.
If youâre reading this and youâve been through a moment like this in your field: I see you. Keep learning. Keep rising. And above allâprotect the light you bring to this world
