05/24/2025
I look at my life right now and think about timing.
I remember being single - as my frustrations grew with the worry I would never find someone to share life with, I’d often hear others say timing is everything. You don’t fully understand that until it proves to be true in your own life.
That time of life was filled with heartbreak, frustration, forced relationships, dumb choices, stupid, stupid boys, and learned lessons. Let’s just say I could write a book or go on a pretty decent comedy tour - as could most single women these days. As I approached my mid-30s, I quite honestly became resigned to the thought that marriage and kids weren’t in the cards for me. I was happy with my business, or at least I thought so, and decided I would turn work into my baby. And I did.
But timing and God had a different plan, I think.
Before Spencer and I stumbled upon each other I found myself in a short-lived relationship that at the time I thought was something, obviously it wasn’t, and I quickly learned it wasn’t right for me. During that relationship I pulled away from my work and attempted to make space in my work life for someone to be able to be in my personal life. Once that relationship ended, I thought my pulling away from work was for the wrong reasons. But once I started dating Spencer, it all hit me like a ton of bricks. That relationship was God’s way of preparing me for what was to come. Tapping me on my shoulder, almost like He was saying, “Hey, you better learn how to make some room in your life for someone, I’ve got someone coming your way, not this joker, but the ACTUAL ONE is up next, get ready.” If I would’ve met Spencer sooner than I did, I wouldn’t have been ready for him, my life and work would’ve failed the relationship before it even got started. I remember realizing quickly that Spencer was special. We both just knew that I was with him, and he was with me and that’s how it was going to be from there on out.
It’s crazy how much life we’ve lived over the past couple years. I’m sure it seems fast to some, but to us it’s not because it all feels so right. It’s such a wonderful feeling. Crazy how it feels right when the timing is right.
