Pathways of a Single Girl

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05/23/2023

My first post here from years ago, but still a great reminder!

05/04/2021

Hello all! It's been a very long time since I walked my "path" as a single woman, but I'm here to say, that there is a lot of great stuff on this page and I thought I would publish it once again. I'm happily married for almost 2 years now, but the road was a long and bumpy one to get here. Think I may change the name it Pathways of a married girl! LOL

05/08/2019

True story!

06/21/2018

Omg! I laughed so hard! How she didn't crack a smile, I have no idea!!!! So funny!!!

10/09/2016

Hi there all my pathways walkers....I love knowing that others are out there, reading my words and sometimes even feeling inspired by them. As of late I have been faced with my past, my present and my future all at the same time. The overwhelming feeling has made me smile, made me cry, scared me and has made me see the Blessings I have in my life.

Looking at a past that had happiness and sadness, hurt, heartache and heartfelt love is all apart of me.

Looking at my presence, I feel scared, lonely, peaceful and Blessed.

Looking to my future I hope to find that great love that doesn't come around to often.

Perhaps for me that love will come in the form of my new grandbaby who shall be arriving in late March 2017. Or perhaps some friend I already know will turn to me one day with a look of wonder and say to me, "I have always loved you". Or maybe still someone new will find me, sweep me off my feet and we will live "happily ever after"....

Are these thoughts the wishes and dreams of a stupid woman? Are they the fantasies of one that has been longing for someone that never seems to come? I'm never sure.
I know many single people that are so content with being single. They love it, they seem to have found a way to live in the moment in and out of the bedroom and through life. I for one just can't do that. I think mistakes of my past has stayed with me and now (well for a long time now) I see the importance of sharing ones self and of getting to know someone as a friend. After all isn't that the relationship we are left with as the years pass by and age creeps up on us? I look to my parents married almost 60 years now. They have a strong foundation of friendship and it shows everyday! I hope to find that again. I had that once a long time ago and then...well it got lost in so many things. So many choices that don't make much since to me now all these years later.
Do you ever wish you could turn back time? Ya...but sadly the reality is you can't, so you live with the choices you made, the good and the bad and you find a way to walk on.

Regret isn't something I hold on to anymore. Honestly it's so heavy and I'm so tired of carrying it. I have been (in the past) so filled with it that at one point I stepped fourth with thoughts of leaving this earth. I am happy to say that God's Grace stepped in at the very moment I needed Him to and now I walk in peace of that. I have my good days, my bad days and remind myself that God is still with me, walking this pathway I find myself still on.

I here to remind us all that we are NOT alone in this world. Yes, we may feel as though we are, but in those times, pick up the phone, call a friend, play with your pet, take a walk someplace wonderful, treat yourself to something you enjoy, pray! These are the things that help when I am feeling so alone. Standing strong is great, but understanding that weakness is not a bad thing as long as you don't allow it to take control. It's ok to cry when you feel sad, laugh when you are happy and pray when you feel lost!

I remind you....you are not alone! Reach up and be held, reach out and a friend will hold your hand and reach within to fid your courage, strength and love!

as I ask you my dear readers.....can you find the love for yourself to walk on?

Let's so it together.......

lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio..ciao
(let the journey begin)

09/05/2016

Hi there, Well....I usually don't start out with a question, I usually finish with one. But today I am going to start with one....This one's for the single ladies out there.... Lately I have noticed that there are A LOT of men that seem o be stuck in the Peter Pan stage....Are you finding this as well???
Here's what I mean by that...to me the Peter Pan stage is when a man ( or a guy that is old enough to be called a man), decides that he would rather just date, hang out, hook up and move on after he's had his fill of s*x, instead of man up and stay for a real life committed relationship. I can't tell you how many men I have met in the past several months that say to me " you are great! I never thought I would ever meet a girl like you, however, I really don't want a relationship....I'm better on my own"! only to find out they have more times than not, gone back to the ex girlfriend. The very one they had no good words for only days before.....
Please someone help me with this new concept! When did we make it ok to give ourselves to any and everyone without the commitment? Without the love, the friendship, the steps of building a solid foundation???
I'm at a loss in this type of world. I hold myself, the most valuable thing I own, that I can give to someone in higher regard than to just give it away to anyone and everyone that comes by. Is this wrong? I find it fascinating when I hear someone say to me things like, why not, you're an adult, use it or lose it, what difference does it make, if you want him, go for it....these statements leave me hollow in side. To think that I would dare to be that shallow with the one most important thing I have....ME!!

Surely I can't be the only single person that thinks this way? Isn't there someone else that has this thought? Or is this what dating these days is all about? The hookup, the hit it and move on? The I only want what I want and screw the rest??? If it is dear readers, I'm retiring for the dating world! I am saddened to think that this is all there is, that every man I meet is only after one thing and nothing more!

For me, I choose to have Faith and Hope that the foundations of relationships are still out there, that someone, just one man that is walking his path to me, will hold these things are valuable as I do!

So to all you "men" that are still living in the Peter Pan stage...I say to you....GROW UP! God has placed you on this Earth to stand-by, protect and cherish ONE woman for the rest of your lives. After all this is why God made Eve, so that Adam would hold her to a higher level and so he would not be alone!

so I ask you.....Will you stand up for your valuable self? Or let society decide who you become?

lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio..ciao
(let the journey begin)

07/24/2016

Hi y'all....I have had lots of time to think on this topic today...wanting a "relationship" when so many just seem to just want a "hook-up".

I have found this to be oh so true with so many men I meet these days...they just want to hook-up, have "fun" then bail...no commitment, no further contact, no relationship beyond the s*x.

Now, I'm sure there are ladies out there with the same thought and well that's fine...who am I to tell you not to go that path.....

However, for me, I am thinking that what's important to me is just a dream, a myth, that no longer exists in today's singles society. (even sadly in the married as well, maybe that's where the issues start). No one seems to want to make the commitment to someone else, to show them they are special enough to stick it out. Being single and just hooking up when you are....well let's say, "In need"... has taken over in this dating game we play. I have met some amazing guys that turn out to be the commitment phobs we have heard about. Saying things to me like, y"our a great gal, I don't know how you are still single, but or me, I just want s*x and nothing more"....funny how they think that is going to make me just lay down and open my legs! Here's a hint to those guys....it doesn't! LOL

We singles, men and women need to hold ourselves higher than what dating has become. Have respect for ourselves and others out there. I have so many girl friends that have just told me, give up, it's just easier and better to be alone than have to put up with this kind of guy.....Now anyone that knows me knows that I am a romantic, one that ALWAYS holds out hope for "The ONE". Until now! :(

This weekend I met a nice man, he was handsome, nice, gentleman that opened doors, made me laugh, was polite and seemed to be a great "catch"....UNTIL...he tells me he doesn't live in this area, has no plan to move here and he will be leaving in the next day or two and doesn't want a relationship of any kind, but is still "willing" to "hook-up" with me....(very kind of him) LOL

I am on several online dating sites (although I don't frequent them at all, only going on if I get a message) and I have to say that about one out of ten men post their status as "not wanting a relationship of any kind"! WTHeck is that all about? WHO FALLS FOR THIS S**T? Why would you want to give yourself to someone that has no interest in you after the bed?

Seems to me that if you give yourself to everyone that comes by looking for nothing more than....that....you lose a bit of yourself, your self respect, your self esteem, your...well...your YOU! then want? you become a "Shell" a hardened heart that can't possibly be happy, can't possible love again through all the scaring that has to follow this type of action....I can see why these friends all tell me to forget finding the one, the love of my life, the one guy that I truly believed that my God put on this earth of me at this time of my life...

it's a sad day when a believer just stops believing.....

perhaps it's the day but for this single girl on this pathway....I am losing HOPE, FAITH and belief that a relationship is in my future!

so I ask you my dear followers.....is this what you have found? Have you given up the belief that relationships are more than just a unicorn???

lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio..ciao
(let the journey begin)

07/13/2016

I'd like to share a post from my Pathways of a Single Girl blog from September last year.. Just moved to my new house in Yuma before I made it my home! This was one of my most viewed posts! after reading back through it... I can see why! Just another page in my book... Soon to come! Life is great and getting better all the time!!! Still walking my path alone... But know with all I am that" HE" is on his way! God Bless !

07/12/2016

Hey all you pathway friends.....
I have been pretty busy with my new job... However, I have lately started wishing ( again) for that special someone to wander in and sweep me off my feet...! Ever feel that way? I have many single friends and some are totally ok with the idea of being single for the rest of their lives.... I also have friends that wish for that one last relationship that grows until the end if time....
I'm one of those.... I'm use to living alone but still hope for that guy I can come home to, cook with, hold hands, have a conversation with.... I will admit that once in a while I wonder if I should just settle for a guy because he's nice... No clear attraction but don't want to be alone forever....
Then, I remember I just want a total package .. The guy that is nice, responsible, secure, respectful.... Ever have that feeling in your soul that your one is out there...??? That's the feeling I have....I pray that he finds me soon...
Please remember pathway friends... The pathway you are currently on may not be the one you want, but it's the one you are on so live your life and make the best of it.... Waiting only stops you from enjoying who's around!!!
So I ask you.... Are you walking the pathway you are on, or waiting in one spot???

Lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio....... Ciao
( let the journey begin)

06/15/2016

WOW...has it been four whole months since I last posted here? Well I guess in a way that's a good thing....It means that I have been out living my life and not stressing over it!

I have found myself in a place in my life that seems odd to some. Yes, I am single, in my 50's, living in a new place, new job.....I have dated a bit in my almost a year here and I have to say, it's been an interesting look at myself.
Looking back on my (to say the least) "wacky" dates from my past, I have am happy to say that I have learned more than my share of how it all works, what a lot seem to want, heard the interesting things people have to say about dating and I have to say, I have found that for me, at this spot on my pathway...it's NOT about s*x! Oh, I know that for most that's what everyone wants, and it's not that I don't want that too, but for me, I have figured out that there is so much more I would rather have along with it....for me, s*x is a side dish if you will....the thing that should go along as a compliment to the friendship you develop. The thing I have found in this past year for me, I get turned off by the fact that all everyone wants to seems to talk about is s*x! Now maybe I'm old fashioned, but wasn't it more fun to experience it when it is just left to happen all on it's own, you know, when you aren't looking for it? Seems to me that if you talk about the expectations, the experience of it all and the "play-by-play" of it all....it loses something...it takes the spontaneity out of it....it's like talking about the first kiss before you are even ready for one....!

What has happened to this kind of dating? What has happened to a guy, finding you attractive, walking up to you to find out more, to asking for your number, then calling you to tell you he had a nice time and when can you get together again....What happened to DATING...you know, going out to eat, dinner, dancing, a movie...getting to know each other through conversation, laughing, sharing time.....Those days seem to be gone my friends! Sad but true...now a days, it goes something like this...you post a profile online, you get likes, tagged a favorites or maybe you get a message saying something like, "hey s*xy", "nice b***s" or "want to meet for a hook-up, but nothing more after that"? ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? Is this what it has come down to?

I can't believe how many people tell me "well at your age, you should just have s*x with everyone...find some young hottie and go for it"! AGAIN I ASK....ARE YOU KIDDING ME????

Now I am no prude for sure, but for me, having s*x just to have it, leaves me....well empty, unrewarded and completely unsatisfied. I met a nice guy, told him I wanted to move things along slowly so neither of us got hurt and we could develop a deeper level of friendship, the kind that would last a life time...his reply..."I don't do slow"! HA! funny coming from a guy that was engaged just after a few months to a girl that turned out to be a wack job......Sad that he doesn't see the need to take things slow....yes we are grown adults, but that doesn't mean our hearts and feelings are any more protected than a younger persons....In fact, I think we are more vulnerable because of your past experiences, the ones that left the scares, the ones that broke our hearts and the ones that we have hopefully learned and healed from!

I so tired of the guys that tell me, "I really like you, you are an awesome girl, and would make a great wife, but I don't want anything serious" Funny because I never say anything about getting married or anything serious when I first meet someone....for me, I want to spend time, laughing, being quiet, sharing the things that life has to offer before we talk about such things as marriage or serious commitments.

I have been single now for a bit over 6 years, I have traveled down many diverse pathways on this journey, I have dated many men (most only once) and have in fact slept with a few....I don't have bad feelings for any of them....the ones that worked for a while, the ones that didn't, to me were all the learning tools I have needed to get to where I am...right here....right now...on this path!

I have confidence that my God's will is not for me to be alone so I know some incredible man is on his path towards me as I write these very words...I know, he will know my heart, my desires and he too will want the things I want, to become friends, to fall in love and then to take things to the next levels of it all when the times are right....this is my wish and my prayer....

I wish and pray these for all my single friends that want these as well....I find comfort in the friends that have thought me that being alone is not a punishment, but a reward for the strong, the brave and the hopeful! I thank you all, you know who you are, you amazing women that have come and gone and stayed in my life and the men who have shown me that although we were not a match, that good men are out there and ready to shine!

Well, thank you all for hearing me, time after time when my heart is full and I need to speak....stay strong together with me my pathway walkers....! I ask for us all to be raised up in the victories that are waiting for us!

so I ask you....what are the victories you have waiting for you???

lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio..ciao
(let the journey begin)

02/20/2016

Hello all you "Pathway" walkers....sorry for taking so long to post again, it has been a very busy few weeks!

This past weekend I found myself at the rodeo! My first and have to say, it was fun. However, I did cheer for the cow's that got away and avoided the rope! LOL

As I was there enjoying the events of the show, I started chatting with the man next to me. He was there with his teenage daughter. We just had basic conversation, you know about the event's we were watching...then he had asked if I had lived in the area long and I told him all about my move and things like that. The conversation was easy and pleasant. I thought he was probably married so there was no flirting, which kept things easy. I was not thinking about an attraction, relationship or anything with this man. However, he showed himself to be a nice man, with a seemingly good heart and when his daughter said he was a great dad...well that said a lot about this man. I left the stands a bit early, so, when the rodeo was over and I went about picking up a purchase I had made earlier there. As I did, this man came to find me to ask for my number, saying he wanted to ask the moment he saw me walking past the stands! (before I ended up sitting next to him) lol

I gave him my number and we have chatted several times and also met for coffee a few times since then. He continues to show he is a good man, owning a successful business, being a devoted father and showers me with very nice, very simple compliments. He is a man of God, and has told me that he is in no hurry to take this to the next level, until we both are ready. We have agreed that just becoming friends is the best route to see what path we end up on. We have a lot in common and I like that. He is a giant of 6'5" to my 5'2".....but it's all good. I learned a long time ago not to put people in a "box " of height, weight, hair or eye color etc.... because what you think you want in those things, may not be what God has planned for you!

I'm sure you have heard more than one person say "when you stop looking, that special person will come"..... I for one hate hearing that! I mean, how can that person come, if I'm not putting myself out there open to it? But, I understand now that it's the "boxes" we need to stop looking for....to just let "the one" walk in, openly, freely and without judgement.

Am I saying I found my one in this man? well, it is WAY too soon to tell, but now that I have no boxes to put him in....this is free to develop into whatever it is to be.

So I caution you, all my dear readers....let go of the "boxes" and just walk your path with open arms, open minds and open possibilities!

Remember that....Today is a Good Day, to be a Good Day!

so I ask you....are you still looking for that special someone that you are trying to fit into the boxes in your mind? Or are you ready to just let it be???

lasciare che il viaggio abbia inizio..ciao
(let the journey begin)