05/16/2026
A little reminder for the dance community 💃
This happens to SO many women at both small socials and big congresses.
We understand people are excited to meet new dancers, make connections, and have new experiences. But the middle of a fast salsa song — in a dark crowded room with loud music and spins every 3 seconds — is probably not the best time for a personal interrogation.
Some of the questions women get asked within the FIRST dance:
“What’s your race?”
“How old are you?”
“Are you single?”
“Do you have kids?”
“Where are you staying?”
“Are you staying at the hotel?”
“Who did you come with?”
“Do you want a boyfriend tonight?”
“Where do you live?”
Meanwhile we’re trying to:
✔ hear the music
✔ stay on balance
✔ avoid crashing into other dancers
✔ follow the lead
✔ actually enjoy the dance
Friendly conversation is completely fine. But there’s a huge difference between being social and making someone immediately uncomfortable.
For some reason this happens to me CONSTANTLY with salseros 😭
Let’s respect the dance floor, respect people’s privacy, and remember that good energy and a good dance connection go way further than 20 rapid-fire personal questions.
Dance first. Everything else can come later. ✨
