01/14/2014
A day in court.
After seating in a courtroom today, I had to ask myself what is justice. I was taught justice was the quality of being just or fair. I was one told fair was a beautiful woman. Nothing seemed fair to me. Justice in the courtroom is the responsibility of the court to administer justice. So I had to ask myself what is injustices. Injustice is the unfair treatment of someone or something. An unfair act like denying people the right to vote is a terrible injustice. However there are many injustices that are not addresses in Family Court.
A mother being forced to endure the abuse of a husband or lover after the relationship is over.A child being play like a pawn in a chest game while being rip from his mother in an painful and unbelievable battle for custody. I began to look up information that would help me console this heart broken mother, daughter, sister, and friend.
We as women are taught to love, nurture, support, pray, and compromise in our family situations. It became clearer to me as I listened to this mother's subbing cry that we were not dealing with justice or injustice, we were dealing with abuse.
Very few people know what abuse really is, though everyone seems quite ready to give advice to it's victims an article said. Abuse is fundamentally a mentality. It is a mindset of entitlement. The abuser sees himself as entitled. He is the center of the world, and he demands that his victim make him the center of her world. His goal is power and control over others. For him, power and control are his natural right and he feels quite justified in using whatever means are necessary to obtain that power and control. Even in a courtroom where justice should be seen and heard. The abuser is not hampered in these efforts by the pangs of a healthy conscience and indeed often lack a conscience.
While this mentality of power and control often expresses itself in various forms of physical abuse, it just as frequently employs tactics of verbal,(e-mails, phone call), emotional, financial, social, sexual, and spiritual abuse. Thus an abuser may never actually lay a hand on his wife or significant other and yet be very actively terrorizing her in incredibly damaging ways. Abuse in any of it's forms destroys the victim's person.
Abuse in the end is Murder. Don't let someone you know kill someone you love.
