01/05/2025
Before you decide to get married... Before you exchange vows, rings, and promises wrapped in romance... Have the conversations that actually matter. Not just the cute ones about baby names, or holidays, but the real ones. The ones that dig into your core and make you pause. The ones that reveal who you truly are when the wedding glow fades and real life shows up. Talk about money. Not just how much you make, but how you spend it. Who pays which bills? What does financial responsibility look like to you? Do you save? Invest? Living week to week? Money can build or break a home, and love alone will not pay the bills. Talk about ambitions.Talk about parenting. Do you believe in gentle parenting or tough love? Will you raise your children religious, or give them space to choose? Are you prepared to be a team when your child tests your patience... and your unity? Talk about credit. Talk about debt. Talk about what you're bringing into the marriage—not just emotionally, but financially. Because once you're legally bound, their financial choices can become your consequences too. Can you love someone whose spiritual beliefs don't match your own? This matters more than you think, especially when life gets hard and you're both looking for meaning or guidance. Talk about how you handle conflict. How do you set boundaries with in-laws? When your mother or father oversteps the mark, are you going to defend your partner, or fold under pressure? Because marriage doesn't just connect two people—it merges two families... and sometimes there are skeletons... Talk about what values you want to instill in your children. Respect. Independence. Discipline. Faith. And make sure you're not trying to parent from wounds you've never healed. Talk about previous traumas. Marriage has a way of bringing unresolved pain to the surface, and you need someone who won't run from your shadows. Talk about s@x. Talk about intimacy. Talk about expectations, love languages, boundaries, frequency, and needs. Because s@xual compatibility isn't shallow—it's also part of connection. Then you'll be ready for life long love 💕