19/03/2024
I’ve been putting the finishing touches to an Exchange of Rings ceremony next week. The couple are legally marrying earlier in the week but are saving some very personal vows to be made in front of family and friends. It’s such an honour to be asked to create a ceremony to celebrate life’s milestone events.
The historic background to today’s ceremonies intrigues me.
Handfasting stems from medieval times when the travelling priest would visit once a year. If you “needed to get married” you could handfast your partner committing to be together for a year and a day, by which time the priest would have visited to formalise a marriage or on day 366 or 367 you could walk away.
In handfasting ceremonies, the cords symbolise the tie between a couple or for a baby-naming the commitment of family and friends to the child. The colour of the ribbons have their own meanings. Messages and charms can be incorporated into the handfasting cord and there are a number of simple and not so simple beautiful knots that can be tied as a lasting reminder of the commitment being made. The cord can be based on a 3 or 4 braid (or multiples of) in a plait to create a flat or round cord.
In a baby naming ceremony, each guest chose and wrote a wish on a ribbon for the baby. We put a central wider ribbon at the centre of the cord and slightly wider ribbons for the “guide “parents (not “god” parents as the family weren’t religious)
I found ribbons made from recycled saris that would produce a beautiful and unique cord. We aren’t going to use this yarn in my upcoming ceremony but I may well experiment with the concept to see what can be created.
What 3 or 4 colours would you include in a cord?
KNITSILK Recycled Silk Ribbon - Abstract - Assorted Sari Silk Ribbons - Silk Strips, Silk Remnants - Great for Mixed Media, Rug Making, Jewellery - 1 Yard 10 Pieces