08/25/2020
Wedding Party😎
They're your support group, your A-team, your wedding day front line.
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Choosing who will stand up with you on one of the most important days of your life may seem daunting, but don’t worry—I'm here to walk you through the steps. So take a deep breath—I promise it’s not as tough as it seems
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1. Think before you ask.
Give yourself at least a month, if you can, to mull over the options. Then ask yourself this question: Will I be just as close to this person in five years as I am now?
2.Set honest expectations.
If you want a very involved wedding party, it may not be the best idea to ask friends or family who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. You may be setting yourself up for disappointment.
3. Include the brothers/sisters.
Not to sound like your mom, but think about it: Even if you're not particularly close to his sister or her brother, siblings are going to be around well past your 10-year anniversary, and chances are, you'll become closer over the years.
Traditionally, it's ladies on one side and guys on the other, but feel free to break that rule and have them stand on either side of the aisle.
4. Consider the size of your wedding.
The average wedding party size is roughly five on either side, so you can use that as a guide when you decide. Just keep this in mind: More isn't always merrier. The more attendants you have, the more details to organize—flattering tuxes or dresses, a bachelor or bachelorette party with 12 attendants who have busy schedules, wedding party gifts and so much more.
If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can't, give them other roles, like usher or ceremony reader.
5. Remember there aren't rules.
Call him the man of honor and her the best woman. Guys can stand with the bride and women can stand with the groom. It's really up to you—what's most important is you include your favorite people, regardless of gender.
6. Don't ask someone just because they asked you.
Weddings are no time for quid pro quo. You don't need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don't ask the college roommate you haven't spoken to in five years just to return the favour.
7. Kids aren't required.
If there aren't any children either of you feel particularly close to, you don't need a flower girl and/or ring bearer. And if you have many children you want to include, feel free. Have three little flower girls instead of one and give them each their own basket of flower petals (boys might enjoy throwing flower petals too!).
Having an adults-only wedding? You can still have kids play their roles at the ceremony and not allow them at the reception.
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Out of curiosity, how many people were in your wedding party??❓💁♀️❓
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Photographer Melista Bahler Photography
