10/06/2024
Marriage motivation and insightful considerations!
THE WINNING MARRIAGE.
There is what is called the winning marriage. A winning marriage is more about who you are than who your spouse is or what is happening in your marriage.
You can choose to win everyday in your marriage. It's not magical. A winning marriage is only possible with a winning personality, character, attitude, perceptive and lifestyle.
It's impossible to win in anything when you don't see yourself winning. It is very impossible to enjoy your marriage everyday if you don't see yourself enjoying your marriage everyday.
In other words, winning in your marriage is much more about your responsibility than it's about who your spouse is and what he
Or she is doing or not doing right. That doesn't mean you will walk into marriage blindly. No! The journey towards a winning marriage begins before marriage.
It's a training, it's a programing, it's a character build and most importantly, you are going to accept someone into your life who your have the grace to tolerate.
Everybody can't be your friend. Everyone isn't going to like you, that's same way not every man that make advances at you is qualified to be your husband. Also not every woman that is beautiful or likes you is qualified to be your wife.
You choose your spouse based on who you are, and not based on who they are. When I discovered myself, that was when I found my wife. Read it again.
He is a nice man, she is a wonderful woman and you accepted him or her. My dear, you are going to regret it, if you have not started regretting it already.
Listen, marriage should be birth on the foundation of who you are, what you want, where you want to be
Or where you are going, and not based on influence, hallucinations, enticement, greed, lust, covetousness and family pressure.
Question, how do I win in my marriage everyday?
1. Thank you.
Learn, choose and decide everyday to thank your spouse for been part of your life.
Gratitude is powerful.
Remind him or her that you are grateful and God will bless him or her.
Kindness also means giving out same energy you receive. The same goes with gratitude.
2. Prayer
Always pray for your spouse with or without their consent. The higher the challenges, the higher the prayer.
This is strictly thanksgiving and faith filled confession prayers, don't blame ancestry spirit. Don't accuse anyone. Also raise an offering or make a sacrifice tagged to him or her.
Be positive. Not negative. Always expect your desired result. Sometimes pray with their clothes in their absence and make a decree. Declare wisdom over him or her in all their involvement. This is so powerful.
3. Humility
James 4:6 reminds us, God gives more grace to the humble. God resists the proud, but gives grace unto the humble. Arrogance is the absence of humility. You can't achieve anything with arrogance.
An expression of arrogance shows you are not in the right state of mind. Haughty spirit is what the Bible calls it.Pride goes before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.
Proverbs 16:18
4. Knowledge
This is the fact or condition of knowing something with familiarity gained through experience or association.
Knowledge is power. Ignorance is infectious. It destroys anything it comes in contact with. It spreads like wildfire.
Many have zero knowledge of who they are, their environment and what they are dealing with. This is the reason for their failures and struggles in life.
Winning everyday in your marriage or in anything requires knowledge of your environment, knowledge of your spouse, knowledge of situation. You are to be educated everyday, if not you are not going to win. Romans 12:2.
5. Service
Marriage is service, not s*x.
Service is the act of serving .The 21st century marriage demands for service. There is need to develop and train yourself with one or two skills as means of service or contribution in your marriage.
Marriage is responsibility, not a paradise. You are to come mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually prepared, if not you are going to be having ups and downs situation in your marriage.
Marriage is like a farm. There are different kinds of farm. No matter what farm it is, there is always a contribution to make and you need to come with the right tools.
There are weeding tools. Sowing tools. Cultivating tools depending on the type of farm you walk into. Readiness is what defines winning.
Regards,
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